Guilt after cheating can be a terrible burden to bear. Many families fall apart under the weight or stress of marriage after cheating but that doesn’t have to be the story for your family if you’re willing to do whatever it takes to change your ending.
Fortunately for you, changing your ending doesn’t require a great deal of hard and intense labor. In fact, if you read this article all the way to the end and then click on the link at the bottom of the page, you’ll have all the information you need in order to succeed.
Forgiveness Really is Divine
Forgiveness in this case is a two-part process. You must start by forgiving your spouse. You may know, on a conscious level, that your spouse isn’t the one to blame for the fact that you cheated. Subconsciously, though, there’s a different tune playing. You’re going to have to stop listening to this one and make a new tune of your own to dance to.
You have to forgive your spouse for hurting you, leaving you lonely, being distant, and any other countless irritations that led you and your marriage to this point. You don’t need to let your spouse know you’ve forgiven him or her (in fact it’s probably best to keep that little tidbit of information to yourself), you just have to do it gladly and without reservations.
The second part of the process is that you must now forgive yourself. You aren’t going to get rid of the guilt that’s tearing you up inside is your wallowing around in the great big mud-hole called self hate or holding a grudge against yourself.
You have to forgive yourself for being, well, human. No one is perfect. We mere mortals though place a lot of pressure on ourselves to be perfect in everything we try and do. Even worse, we expect the people who surround us to live up to our rigid expectations of perfection too. You have to learn to forgive yourself and the people you love for failing to live up to that particular expectation if you want to stop feeling guilty for cheating.
But how do you forgive yourself for something this big? You do it one heartbeat, one breath, one moment, and one day at a time. You don’t go in all or nothing. You start small and work your way up. Once you get in the habit of forgiving, you’ll find that it not only gets easier but also infinitely more rewarding in time.
It really isn’t that hard to learn to forgive your spouse and yourself. Once you do this, half the battle to get your ex back has been fought and won for you.
If you need a little help convincing your spouse to offer the same spirit of forgiveness you’ve recently embraced, give the sweet trick from this free video => http://www.getyourexbacknow.com/just_break_up3.html a whirl and see what a difference it can make for you.