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3 Words Which Can Rescue A Married Relationship After Cheating

Maybe it is merely the particular era we exist in or possibly it is perpetually been this way when it comes to marriage after an affair the two timing significant other seems to have a tough time saying, They are sorry. Three words with the capability to put a stop to a lot of arguments and nasty emotions from gaining a foothold.

As the divorce statistics illustrate by and large these particular words are not receiving a lot of activity. As per the statistics the divorce charge at this time is 50 percent. Sure a number of these may very well have been inescapable but it’s apparent many other marriages may have been saved with a bit of humbleness from each spouse.

A slight grievance like forgetting to go to the market although the actual refrigerator is essentially packed can cause some war declaration with both sides refusing to give in. They could pass this particular obstacle yet this has more to do regarding time rather than either individual making an attempt to swallow their very own ego to apologize. Whenever something insignificant develops in the future the particular battle lines are hardened even further. Not too long afterwards communication is minimal at best.

Expressing regret can have the same power after an extramarital affair. It cannot change what took place. Somebody breached a marital relationship agreement so there is no going back. However what they can take is undoubtedly responsibility for what their particular actions caused. That is when these few words could help substantially.

Yet in spite of all this far too many marital partners that cheat cannot bring themselves to say what needs to be said. Rather than an apology they will become uptight and commence playing the guilt game. If the mate had only done whatever whenever they would not have had to go out and two time. This is a means to excusing their blunder along with hurling any condemnation anywhere except where it actually belongs.

If and when they do apologize it is performed in such a way you just about wished that they had not. The unfaithful wife or husband does it from exasperation with a arrogant attitude that makes it seem like it was your own fault. Or perhaps they are doing this with their guard up. “Fine I am regretful. However”.

This means the particular mea culpa has truly makes them ill and they are promptly getting it out of the way so as to inform you exactly where you actually went wrong. In regards to the spousal relationship following cheating this kind of mea culpa is yet another way in order to switch blame.
 

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Married and Cheating: the Fight Pickers

 

You both had a bad day at work or maybe due to some miscommunication some pressing family business didn’t get done. It could be that the two of you are just tired or that it is just part of your relationship. Whatever it is arguing between married couples just comes with the territory.

 

But with a cheating spouse quarreling takes on a whole new dimension. It’s not just the normal workings of a relationship at play. It is external forces directly affecting the commitment that you and your spouse have made to each other.

 

There are a number of motives at work when a cheating spouse decides to start picking fights.

 

1. Feeling It

 

You have been good to your spouse and they know it. You’ve had your share of ups and downs like any married couple but that only made you a better duo. And now your significant other is throwing that away and they know it. The longer the extramarital affair goes on the greater the guilt. For some it becomes too much of a load to carry so they wind up confessing; for others it means more arguing.

 

2. Shift Blame

 

Suddenly it’s you that may be the cheating spouse. Your significant other starts telling you they noticed a mutual friend is a little too friendly towards you. It was at that party two weeks ago. The fact that you only saw the person from across the room as they were leaving to go to another party is beside the point. The bottom line is they “caught” you. Shifting blame puts you on the defensive and creates more breathing room for their marital infidelity.

 

3. The Get Out of the House Argument

 

Your spouse just got the call from their extramarital partner. It’s on. They were expecting it so they already figured out what to do. It’s all about knowing which one of your buttons to push. Whether it was a misunderstanding between the two of you that happened way back or a current family issue doesn’t matter. As long as it can get you going to the point where they can go somewhere and “cool off”.

 

4. Resentment

 

They come back from the rendezvous and you’re still there. Your presence may be activating some of that guilt but it also tells the cheating spouse you are spoiling their enjoyment. Coming back into the house and facing the reality means the fun has come to end. That makes them angry and arguing is an a way to let you know it

 

Continuous arguing has a way of keeping you off balance and filling you with self doubt. There are going to be disputes in any relationship but if your significant other is picking fights with you then it could very well mean they have something to hide.

 

Article written by Daryl Campbell of The Relationship Tip – It’s a tool, a weapon and a temporary get out of jail free card. But no matter how you classify it’s something a cheating spouse cannot do without

Katharine McPhee Cheats Husband Nick Cokas With Married Director Michael Morris

Former “American Idol” finalist Katharine McPhee reportedly cheated her husband Nick Cokas as she had an affair with her “Smash” director Michael Morris. The 29-year-old songstress and the “Brothers & Sisters” director, who first met on the set of the now-cancelled musical drama, were pictured engaging in some PDA in Los Angeles in broad daylight. They were snapped in a passionate lip lock by a car that Katharine McPhee was getting into. It seemed that the couple were not shy with the PDA either as they held hands, cuddling each other, laughing and smiling very happily.

This is all good and well, except that both Katharine McPhee and Michael Morris are married to their respective spouses. The actress got married with her big shot producer hubby Nick Cokas back in 2008. However, the pair have been allegedly separated for 6 months and are living apart. They have no children. Meanwhile, Michael Morris has been together with “Private Parts” starlet Mary McCormack for over a decade. He shares three young daughters aging 2, 6 and 9 with his wife.

Former “Smash” director Michael Morris married actress Mary McCormack and they had three young kids together, aged between two and nine.

Michael Morris was the director of NBC musical drama “Smash,” which was cancelled with the season finale airing on May 26, 2013. He was also the director and producer for ABC’s drama “Brothers & Sisters” that ended in 2011.

The father of three reportedly cheated his wife Mary McCormack with Katharine McPhee. He was seen in a lip-lock with the married songstress in broad daylight in Los Angeles like he didn’t care who saw.

Michael Morris and Katharine McPhee got close on the set of “Smash.”

Katharine McPhee’s character Karen was dressed in a waitress uniform as she filmed her hit show in New York City. She got a kiss on the head from Jack Davenport’s director.

Katharine McPhee and her 47-year-old husband Nick Cokas looked happy and comfortable as they grabbed lunch at Cafe Cluny.

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How Many Married Men Have More Than One Affair? If He Cheats Once, Will He Cheat Again?

I get asked this question quite a bit. Women who are considering trying to save their marriage after their husband has cheated are trying to gauge how likely it is that he’s going to repeat this behavior and cheat again. Because dealing with this once is extremely hard, but many people worry that dealing with it more than once is going to be impossible. So, it’s understandable that you want to know the chances of your husband cheating again. I will go into this in more detail in the following article.

Once A Cheater Always A Cheater? Is This True No Matter What?: When infidelity happened to me, I found that many (but not all) of my friends had no faith in my ability to rehabilitate my marriage completely. Many told me that I would probably never be able to fully trust my husband again since most men who cheat turn out to be repeat offenders. We’ve all heard the saying “once a cheater always a cheater.” But how true is this? And are there different factors that determine who is going to be repeat offender? Does getting counseling and doing the right things make it more likely that the husband won’t cheat again? I have different opinions on all of these questions, but I can tell you what studies and statistics indicate. Here’s a look at some of them.

Statistically speaking (and probably to no one’s surprise) men have more opportunities for infidelity than women. And the numbers seem to back this up. There are many studies about husbands and wives who cheat, but most studies indicate that husbands are slightly more likely to cheat than wives. The numbers that I found range anywhere from 22 to 37 percent of husband being unfaithful and anywhere from 14 to 22 percent of wives having affairs or cheating.

So while these numbers show us that there are plenty of cheating spouses out there, they don’t tell us how many of these folks are repeat offenders who have cheated more than once.

The numbers that I could find indicate that only 15 – 20 percent of people who cheat do so again and become repeat offenders. This is better statistics that many of us expect and I find that many people are shocked to know that only approximately 18% of divorces are due to infidelity. I have learned than more people than I would have ever thought are able to save their marriages after one spouse cheats.

Safeguarding Your Marriage From Repeat Cheating: Many couples are able to identify and then address what went wrong so that they do not have to go through this issue again. Many people assume that cheating and affairs are based solely on sex, but this just is not usually true. Often, it has more to do with a lack of self esteem, a lack of impulse control and a feeling of being disconnected, misunderstood and unappreciated on the part of the spouse who cheated.

What’s really interesting is that there are some factors which can contribute to married spouses cheating more than once. The one that surprised me the most was the people with whom the cheating spouse hangs around with. One study indicated that men who cheated were more than 77 percent more likely to have a best friend who had also cheated. Also, men or husbands are more likely to cheat if their father has cheated.

So, it can make a lot of sense to take a look at your husband’s friends and male family members. Because often, it’s a culture of acceptance toward cheating that you will want to address. Many men are surrounded by other men who insinuate that “all men cheat” and that this is just the normal way that the world works.

Also, there are often contributing factors in the marriage that work with cultural aspects (whether at work, in our society, or in the family,) to make your marriage more vulnerable to infidelity. No marriage is perfect. But being aware, proactive, and having open communication combined with a sense of connectedness can go a long way toward making sure that your marriage is not one of the ones who has to deal with cheating more than once.

Because the changes that a marriage can survive cheating goes down with each affair or instance of cheating. So it makes sense to do what you need to do to safeguard your marriage in the future. And studies do show that couples who receive help in dealing with this are more likely to not have to revisit this again than those who just brush the affair under the rug and attempt to move on too quickly.

I know that these things can be difficult to address, but they are important. Although I never would’ve believed this two years ago, I did eventually truly get over the affair. My marriage is stronger than ever. It took a lot of work, and I had to play the game to win, but it was worth it. Our bond and intimacy is much stronger and because of all the work I did on myself, my self esteem is at an all time high. I no longer worry my husband will cheat again. You can read a very personal story on my blog at http://surviving-the-affair.com/

Katie Lersch writes articles about moving past an affair.  Her corresponding blog is at http://surviving-the-affair.com/