The time has come for you to stop making excuses for your cheating husband and lay down the law for your marriage. Marriage is a partnership and you are allowing him to dictate the terms when you forgive him for cheating and take him back time after time after time.
It’s going to require that you step a little bit outside of your comfort zone and exercise some assertiveness. Just remember that there is a right and a wrong way to go about putting things into perspective for your husband when it comes to your marriage.
Wrong Ways to Lay Down the Law for Your Cheating Husband
1) Cast iron skillets. They may be tempting and can make excellent arguments in your favor but the downside is pretty big. The wrong size skillet over a head that isn’t really as thick and hard as a fence post can be bad news for your relationship.
2) Property damage. As tempting as it sounds to follow in the footsteps of certain country music acts, that wouldn’t be a good idea. Damaging his property often has the opposite effect of what you’re hoping for in men – especially if you are damaging his car. The business end of a baseball bat can do a lot of damage but the goal for this exercise is to get his attention to save the marriage and not to run your husband off completely.
Right Ways to Make Your Point for Your Cheating Husband
1) Start a reasonable dialog between the two of you. This isn’t a shouting match and should not be an argument. You need to use your indoor voices and speak with calm words for the sake of everyone involved. If there are little children it’s great to meet in a public place to have this conversation that has playground equipment or something to entertain your children while you talk. Best case scenario involves leaving the children out of it altogether.
2) Write it down. Putting your thoughts and feelings down on paper can be an effective means to work out the negative emotions you are feeling, edit the words you use before they make it to his ears, and it ensures that you get to say everything that’s on your mind without getting interrupted to side-tracked in the process. The best part is that you can start your note over if you don’t like it, feel it’s too negative, or just want to clean up the rough edges a little bit.
Choosing the right tools is half the battle when it comes to stopping the madness of a cheating husband and even for your efforts to get your ex back.
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