Enough already! It’s time to stop the insanity of blaming yourself for your husband’s cheating. Hindsight is an amazing thing. Armed with the knowledge of what happened you are able to step back in time and see every single solitary thing you could have, should have, or would have done to change the ultimate outcome.
The problem remains that you’ll never know if it would have worked or not so all you have to go by are your own self doubts.
Yes. Your husband cheated. Yes. Things could have worked out differently. Here’s the thing though. You don’t know, really know, what it would have taken to make the different outcome you want to have happened, happen.
So, why are you still blaming yourself for your husband’s cheating?
Here are a few common reasons women are so quick to blame themselves for the infidelity of their husbands.
1) You believe it’s your responsibility to make him happy. While it’s great to have this ambition in your marriage, your husband is ultimately responsible for his own happiness. You can do things to please him and work hard to create a home he’s happy to come home to but he has to make his own happiness in life, just as you do. It’s too much of a burden to place upon yourself to hold yourself responsible for another person’s happiness. And, it’s unfair to both of you.
2) You believe you drove him into her arms. The thing is unless you were running behind him with a bullhorn in one hand and a cattle prod in the other, you weren’t driving him anywhere. You are not responsible for his actions. Only he is. He is the one who made the decision and he is the one who must take responsibility for making that choice.
3) You believe everyone else will blame you. This is the one that really cares a lot of weight for most women. Women are generally people pleasers. You want to make others happy and you bend over backwards to make that happen. The problem is you can’t please everyone. Stop trying to live up to the expectations of the world around you and decide your own standard to live up to. Most importantly, stop feeling guilty for not living up to the expectations of others. It’s not your job to make the world happy. No one woman or man can do that. Accept your limitations and you and those who love you will be much happier.
It’s true, you can’t make everyone happy but you can start today on your own campaign to get your husband back from the other woman and save your marriage.
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