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Relationships and Cheating – How to Get Over It

Relationships and cheating go hand in hand. You know someone who has been cheated on, did someone cheat on you or was it you who cheated on your relationship?

Both the cheated and the cheater suffer pain from its effects. Whilst it is evident that the cheated suffers, the person actually cheating also suffers. He has to lie to keep what he is doing a secret and fell guilty about what he is hiding and doing. The guilt may be a real guilt or a secret guilt. And just because there was cheating in the relationship, it does not necessarily spark off its end.

Can you really make it work after you have been cheated on and you either never separated or managed to get back together again? What can you do to get over it and is he going to start doing it again? After there has been cheating, a relationship is going to be difficult to save and often cheating is a repetitive affair. Some couples, however, do manage to rebuild trust in their partner and stay to live happily together.

You must find out why your partner cheated on you to be able to know how far you can trust them in the future. Perhaps there were troubles in your relationship or did it happen because the situation just presented itself. Talk over the reasons calmly with your partner.

If it was out of boredom the time it happened when the occasion just presented itself, you probably have a serious problem. If the excuse for cheating on you is no better than that, you may find it difficult to forget the pain the cheating caused you and feel able to continue the relationship.

Where you were already having relationship problems your partner may have thought that the relationship was all but over anyway. If you were having problems, then your partner may have thought that the relationship was going to end anyway or they did not think about it or considered it did not matter. In any case their cheating was wrong, but at least you can understand the problem and you may be able to talk matters over between yourselves.

Concerning relationships and cheating, they are an odd cocktail and some couples manage to get on perfectly well afterwards. Often though, the person who has suffered the cheating cannot accept what has happened. They find it impossible to stay in a relationship where they can no longer trust their partner or expect the cheating will be repeated.

They are constantly suspicious and miserable as a result, and the other party may not appreciate being the butt of this suspicion. . If this has happened to you, you have to accept to trust your partner not to repeat the affair and hurt you again, however difficult this may be.

It is rarely easy when there has been cheating in a relationship.

I advise you both to read “The Magic of Making Up”, written by T ‘Dub’ Jackson. He has helped many people, in a similar situation to yours all over the world, to resolve their relationship problems successfully.
Joe Bisley
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Joe Bisley writes articles about human relationship problems

Signs of Cheating Spouse and How to Catch a Cheater

You have started to suspect your spouse might be cheating on you or might be having an affair. You navigated to this page because you want to know how you can find out the truth. It is very important that you do not start to accuse your spouse of cheating or having an affair unless you have solid evidence. Below you find information regarding some common signs related to possibility of cheating or an affair.

If your husband or wife has suddenly changed his or her behavior without any obvious reason, you should dig a bit deeper to find out what has caused the change. Change itself is not a big warning sign, there can be many reasons why your spouse has changed his or her behavior. It can be caused by stress related to work or some other personal issue which you are not aware of. However, there are certain signs which may imply that your suspicions are correct.

Your spouse may have become more distant or alternatively more affectionate towards you. Both kinds of changes in behavior can be related to the fact that your spouse is cheating on you or is having an affair, or is having feelings towards someone else. If you observe this kind of change you should look for other signs which might imply something is going on.

Your husband or wife may have started to do more exercise than usually or buy new clothes more often than before. Another alarming sign is that your spouse has started to guard his or her cell phone or is keeping it in silent mode. This is a very big red flag implying your spouse is communicating with someone and does not want you to find out about it. Another sign is that your husband or wife may have started to talk about some new friend or colleague often. Especially during the early phase of attraction or relationship people often cannot help it but talk about the target of their emotions.

If you observe simultaneously several changes as those described above, you should be alarmed. If you feel there is a strong reason to believe your husband or wife might be cheating on you or is having an affair, you can consider different options what to do to get evidence or to prove you are wrong in doubting your spouse.

If you can afford it, it is not a bad idea to consider hiring a private detective. It does not take long time for a professional to get to the bottom of the truth. If you do not want to use your money for hiring a private detective, you can do some investigation on your own. Cheaters tend to leave several signs and you have one big advantage on your side: Your husband or wife does not know you are being suspicious (unless you have stepped forward and accused your spouse without evidence. You should avoid doing this, since after being confronted cheaters are alarmed and after that it can be very difficult to catch them).

Because surprise element is on your side, you can take all the time you need to do your own investigations. People who are cheating or having an affair are calling and sending emails and text messages to target of their feelings often. They also try to arrange to meet the Lover as often as possible. If you do careful investigations, you are able to discover this kind of behavior.

There is one very important point you should remember. If you do not find any evidence of cheating or an affair during your investigations, do not think “this does not prove my spouse has not been cheating or having an affair, I just have not found it out yet”. You can easily become obsessed with your investigations and continue them even tho it is obvious nothing is going on. If you observe your husband or wife carefully for a period of time and find no signs of cheating or an affair, you should let your suspicions go (at list for the moment until something alarming may surface again). Otherwise you are not able to enjoy your relationship and due to this your behavior towards your spouse may change, which may lead to problems in your relationship which are totally unrelated to the possibility of cheating. Excessive jealousy is very common reason for separation and divorce.

If you wish to read more about possible signs which might imply your husband or wife is cheating on you or is having an affair, visit page Cheating Spouse Signs

Cheating Spouses – 6 Common Mistakes That Give Them Away!

If you are feeling frustrated because you suspect that your spouse or lover is cheating behind your back but you do not know how to catch him or her, you have come to the right article. There are actually many mistakes that a cheating spouse tends to make and I have listed 6 common mistakes below. All you have to do is to look out for these mistakes to confirm your suspicions and from there gather evidence to further proof your partner’s cheating deeds.

1. Believing that Lady Luck will always be on their side
It is very likely that your cheating spouse will think that he/she won’t get caught so easily. As a result of this wrong belief, cheaters tend to become bolder and more reckless in their behaviour after a while. Under very rare circumstances do affairs carry on for years without their partners finding out as there will be a day when they do get caught, so if you are looking for evidence of your partner cheating, you can check on their daily activities over a longer period; you might find something one day.

2. Believing that it is not wrong
It is sad but true that some men and women believe that there is absolutely nothing wrong in cheating behind their partners’ back! They probably did not realize or refuse to admit that when they are in a relationship, they have an unspoken duty to remain faithful to each other. However, the good news is that such cheaters are not likely to cover their tracks so it will be easy for you to catch your cheating spouse or lover if they belong to this category and then you can take the necessary action against them.

3. Believing that they will be easily forgiven
It is not surprising to find your cheating spouse expecting you to forgive his/her cheating deeds as just a simple mistake should you find out about it one day. This is true regardless of the gender which probably explains why some men and women tend to cheat; they did not realize the seriousness of the situation. As such, this group of cheaters might not even try to hide their cheating deeds and will probably react in astonishment if you get upset over it.

4. Disappearing Act
Another mistake a cheating spouse tends to make is to avoid answering your phone calls when they are with their significant other. This is probably out of guilt to be with someone else and so they did not want to answer your calls when they are cheating on you. Therefore, if you suspect that your partner is cheating on you, you can try calling them on their cell phone when you have no idea where they are. If the calls go unanswered and this happens many times, you have reasons to believe that you have a cheating spouse or lover.

5. Paying extra attention to their physical appearance
This is probably the most common mistake made by all cheaters. When a man or woman is meeting someone new, it is a natural instinct to want to impress that significant other. As such, they will suddenly pay more attention to their physical appearance, for example, changing the whole wardrobe or going on a diet to lose weight. No doubt it is possible that your partner has a genuine reason for wanting the change but most of the time, it is a sign of a cheating partner. Of course you do not jump the gun and start accusing your spouse of cheating immediately upon seeing a change in him/her! It is just an indication that you have to take action in finding out more evidence of your partner’s activities.

6. Showing off their capabilities
Sometimes people get so carried away with their newfound romance that they forget to keep it in low profile. They might appear in public with their secret lovers instead of dating discreetly or they talk to their good friends about their affairs. What they did not realize is that rumors can spread like wildfire! So if you are having some suspicions that you have a cheating spouse or lover, one of the first things you can do to confirm your suspicions is to listen for any rumors that might pass your way.

The above are just some mistakes a cheating spouse tends to make so you can look out for them to confirm your suspicions on whether you have a cheating partner. If you think that you have a wife, husband, boyfriend or girlfriend who has been cheating on you, check out “The PI’s Guide To Catching Your Two-Timing Lover!” at http://www.expertreviewslist.com/recommend/catchcheatingspouse.html