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Does Giving Details About The Cheating Help The Other Person Move On And Get Over It?

I recently heard from a husband who sincerely wanted to know how much he should disclose about his cheating to his wife. At some point in this conversation, it became very apparent that the husband was truly remorseful and was willing to do whatever needed to be done to help his wife move past this in the way that was the most healthy for her, not for him. He told me that ultimately, he would understand if she wanted to divorce him but that his main concern was that she not feel badly about herself. His main hope was that she would one day be happy again, even if this meant that she was happy without him.

He had a very specific question though. His wife was very insistent on knowing “each and every detail” about his cheating. He wanted to do the right thing, but he had concerns. He told me that as more and more details came out, the wife became more and more angry and the marriage deteriorated more and more. The wife told him that his being willing to tell the truth would mean a lot to her and might make her react better to him and the cheating. The husband doubted this and asked “would my telling her all of the details of the affair mean that she would have an easier time moving on?”

There’s no easy answer to this question. I feel that there is information that a wife in this situation is entitled to and needs to know. However, there are some details that only cause more pain. In short, knowing some things can very much help and knowing other things can very much hurt. I will discuss this more in the following article.

Honesty After An Affair Is Vitally Important, But Some Topics Are More Vital Than Others: Wives will often insist that they don’t want to hear any more lies after their husband has been caught in an affair. You absolutely can not blame them for this. It’s completely understandable and they have the right to the information that will allow them to know exactly what and who they are dealing with.

The types of things that they will often most want to know is if the affair is completely over and if you are willing to be honest and conduct yourself with integrity from this point on. They often want to know how you feel about them today and where your commitment is. They also want to know what went wrong. They often want your reassurance that you’ve completely removed yourself from this situation and will not repeat it.

It can help both of you to know and understand where things went wrong. This is important because if you can’t undercover the underlying factors, then you’re vulnerable to repeat them. And, often your wife will really want to know what your plan is from here. She wants to know if you really believe that the two of you can make it after this and why or why not this might be true. In short, she probably really does not understand why she is in the situation that she is in. She wants to know why she’s here, where she goes from here, and how (or if) you’re going to help her recover and be happy again.

Sometimes, Admitting “Absolutely Everything About The Affair” Can Hurt More Than It Helps: I’m all for transparency and honesty. And this wife was demanding that her husband tell her “absolutely everything about the affair.” I understand why she wanted these answers. But, I can also tell you from experience that sometimes the tiny details that your wife may swear she wants might be the details that hurt her the most.

Believe me when I say that she might believe that she really wants to know where you went and what you did. But, sometimes the answers to these questions are absolutely devastating. If she personalizes the other woman and gets very detailed and troublesome images in her head, this can be very hurtful to her and difficult to overcome. When you’re tempted to tell everything, ask yourself if your answers are going to empower your wife or hurt her.

Now, some of this information is going to hurt her simply because of the nature of your actions. However, she doesn’t need to know what kind of perfume the other woman wore because every time she smells it, she is going to feel pain. She doesn’t need to know about the other person’s underclothing because this might make her feel badly about herself. Yes, she absolutely needs and is entitled to answers. And, she needs to know that she can count on you to tell her the truth from this moment forward. But, don’t put her in a situation where you point out her flaws or allow her to think the worst of herself.

In my experience, you can help her to “get over” your affair by walking with her with patience, reassurance, and love. You can give her the information that she needs to help her understand why her world has turned upside down. You can take responsibility for your actions and get her the tools that she needs to heal. You can encourage her to rebuild her self esteem and self worth. You can allow her the time and space that she might need. But, you don’t necessarily need to unload on her just to ease your guilt. Some of the things that you may be tempted to unload could very much damage her further and make her feel worse about herself. And this is something that you definitely do not want. Your goal should be to strengthen her every chance that you get.

Thankfully, I eventually learned to stop demanding the details about my husband’s affair that hurt me the most. And, my husband eventually learned how to show his true remorse and how to move us both forward. These things helped a lot. Although I never would’ve believed this two years ago, my marriage is stronger than ever after my husband’s affair. It took a lot of work, but it was worth it. Because of all the work I did on myself, my self esteem is at an all time high. I no longer worry my husband will cheat again. You can read a very personal story on my blog at http://surviving-the-affair.com/

Katie Lersch writes articles about moving past an affair.  Her corresponding blog is at http://surviving-the-affair.com/

Want To Get Your Cheating Wife Back ? This Mind Blowing Psychological Trick Will Get The Job Done

It isn’t all that hard to get your cheating wife back when you know the right steps to make and have the roadmap laid out in front of you. The problem is that most people don’t get the directions needed. Instead, they follow their hearts which often lead them astray. Keep reading to find out the one mind blowing mind trick that will help you get your cheating wife back in a flash.

There are all kinds of things you can do in an effort to get your cheating wife back. Some of them will be effective while others, not so much. You don’t need to waste time with hit or miss efforts when you can do one thing that will turn her into putty in your hands from the very start.

Once you get her to that point, everything else is really moot. So, what is this stunning mental trick that will help you get the results you want with your wife once and for all?

It’s simply this: make your wife feel like you need her.

Can it really be that simple? Women stay in relationships they should have walked away from years ago for this very reason. I’m not advocating an abusive relationship by any means. This is what you need to do when you genuinely love your wife and want to make your relationship work.

You must regret the fact that you hurt your in a way that led to her cheating on you and be devoted to making your marriage better this time around if you get the second chance you’re angling for. In other words it can’t be a mind trick for the sake of a mind trick. It needs to be sincere. You need to have come to the conclusion that you really do need your wife in your life in order for this to work. She’ll see straight through anything less than absolute sincerity and you can’t afford to miss the mark this time around.

Yes, your wife was the one who cheated on you. Yes, you are the injured party. But, you are also the one who is interested in making your marriage work. This means that it is your pride that is going to have to be substantially swallowed in order to make things work out in the end.

Guess what though?

I have faith in you that you can pull this off to win the girl and ride off into the sunset in the end now that you know the one thing you must do to get your cheating wife back.

 

Are you ready to do whatever it takes to end the suffering of those lonely nights without your wife by your side? Are you ready to get your wife back once and for all?

 

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The Proper Protoss Strategy- Easy to Win in Protoss VS Terran

A lot of Starcraft 2 players think Terran is the best race, it is a very powerful bunch with a lot of very powerful weaponry. But in my opinion, I like Protoss and I have the effective Protoss strategy that can be use easily to win in the Protoss vs Terran match. It is true that Terran can cause some serious trouble for Protoss players, but it is all about they do not understand the advantages and the weaknesses of Terran. If you have read the proper Starcraft 2 Protoss strategy, Terran will not be the serious problem for you again and you can dominate him easily.

What is the effective Protoss strategy to use in Protoss vs Terran match?

There are many of Protoss strategy, so I will tell you the most strategies that are used to against with general Terran player.

Scouting

Build an Observer fastest as you can do, it will be used to scout your enemies, so you can control all area in the Protoss vs Terran match. You have to look over Terran player what they are building and create your Protoss units to against them. You can see Protoss counters Terran list as following:

If Terran builds Marine or Thor- You build Zealot.
If Terran builds Marauder or Siege Tank- You build Void Ray, Carrier or Mothership.
If Terran builds Hellion or Reaperor- You build Stalker.

These are roughly Protoss vs Terran counter lists.

Keeping scouts close to your own base is the great Protoss strategy, make sure Terran are not posing an immediate threat to your force.

 

The another of Protoss Strategy is;

Use Stalkers against Marauders and Marines.
Use Immortals against Siege tanks, Thors, Marines or Marauders.
Use Collosus melt the Terran ground forces.

Get two of the Collosus as soon as possible in the game, and make sure to get a range upgrade on their attack. This way they will be able to effectively destroy the Terran Marines and Marauders combinations.

This is just one of hundred expert Starcraft 2 Protoss strategy that you can use in Protoss vs Terran match and I hope it will be useful for you to win the Starcraft 2 game. You can find even more powerful techniques to fight your enemies and move up into the Platinum league by using the effective Starcraft 2 Protoss strategy Guide.

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