When you are starting to get suspicious that your girlfriends cheating on you, when is it okay to confront her? What if you are just being paranoid? Luckily there are ways of how to tell if your girlfriends cheating, and if used properly you will know when and if you should make your move. Avoid angrily accusing her of being unfaithful because a few things do not add up. Try to gather as much information as possible.
Keep in mind that these are very general rules. It is best to gather a lot of information together and make an informed decision. Sometimes people act strange because they are depressed or distracted by a problem you may not be aware of. By identifying a few red flags you can accept cheating as a possibility or rule it out entirely.
1) Phone Hang ups
Often times cheaters will give their lover their home phone number. Even though they are instructed not to call at certain times they may call anyway. This is usually the other man trying to sabotage your relationship to have your girlfriend all to himself.
These could simply be people dialing the wrong number and realizing it at the last moment. However we usually do not realize we have dialed a wrong number until the phone is answered by someone we do not recognize.
If you get a lot of phone calls where people are hanging up as soon as you pick up the phone, but not when she picks up, it could very well be her lover. But do not jump to conclusions until you get more evidence.
2) Secret Messages
This could be stepping out of the room every time she receives a text message or spending ridiculous amounts of time on the computer. It could even be pulling her friends aside and whispering all the time. If you are with some one who is faithful there should be no need to hide who they are chatting with.
Emails and text messaging have allowed cheaters all new modes of communication, but it can be very obvious when some one is trying to hide a text message, especially your girlfriend. This is one of the more obvious signs.
3) Change in Attitude
This boils down to a completely different side of your girlfriend. This is where you notice she is less talkative and avoids any kind of physical contact with you. This is the cheaters guilt manifesting itself into a different persona.
Sometimes its not an attitude change but a change in her desires to look more attractive. Has she been buying sexier underwear and fussing over her appearance more than usual. This is a common red flag for a cheating girlfriend.
Should you Confront Her?
If 2 or more of these signs are present there is a strong chance that your girlfriends cheating on you. Whether it is an emotional or physical affair is yet unknown, but something is not right with all this suspicious behavior.
After applying these signs to your own relationship you should be able to make an assessment. After watching your girlfriend you may not know for sure, but you will either feel like maybe you were being paranoid, or that she very well could be cheating, but your still not sure.
If if there is no strong feeling that you were just overreacting at this point then you should confront her. You do not have to accuse her of being unfaithful, but present the evidence that is before you and make her aware that you want to help if there are any problems.
By taking this approach you are not accusing her of anything but simply taking an interest in her well being. When presented with her strange behavior as of late even she would have to admit that something is not right. This could be a problem that she had not felt comfortable to speak about and has nothing to do with cheating. At this point if she gets mad and defensive she is most definitely being unfaithful. Only you can decide what to do at that point.
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