Last Wednesday morning, I hit the highway to drop off my laptop to get some repairs. As I sat in the early morning traffic, my mind was flooded with memories from my former corporate days.
As I looked ahead of me at all the traffic, I remembered all the mornings, and evenings, I’d spent in sitting in my car- feeling like I wasting my life away.
I always remember looking around – trying to catch the eye of other people in their cars – wondering if they were thinking what I was: “What are we all following each other to? What are we chasing?”
When I was in corporate I always felt like an outcast. Come to think of it, my whole life I felt like an outcast – a black sheep – someone who always got into trouble for drawing outside the lines, not fitting into a mold, or box, wanting things to be different, and searching for an escape hatch – a place where I could find a blank canvas to draw-out that vision.
Even when I quit corporate and launched my own gig, I spent many years trying to ‘fit-in’ within the entrepreneurship mold. Without realizing I was doing it, I began to try on other people’s visions, and ‘ways’ of doing things, yet none of them fit right. Once again, I found myself wondering – where does a ‘black sheep’ like me fit-in?
The truth is, black-sheep don’t fit-in. That’s the point.
You know you’re a black sheep when you know you’re different, you know that you’re creative, you know that you have ideas, great ideas, yet you may not know where to channel them. You may beat yourself up for being different- feeling like – if you could just find a place to ‘fit-in’, then everything would be okay.
Yet, I encourage you – rather than looking for a place to “fit-in”- socially, personally, professionally – rather – look within and begin to embrace that beautiful black-sheep – that woman who is different, and was born that way – unique, creative, and a genius – who rather than writing on someone else’s canvas, has to find her own to paint her masterpiece.
There are various canvases on which you can paint – professionally, in my opinion, creative entrepreneurship is that canvas, and I have no qualms in saying that.
I’m totally and utterly bias towards being an entrepreneur. Is it easy? Nope. Is it for everyone? Ummm, no. You have to want it, and you have to know why you want it so badly. I believe you need to leverage the platform that creative entrepreneurship provides, and know what you’ll say when you reach that platform.
Finding, and using your Voice, isn’t always an easy thing – or a popular thing. If you’re a creative women who may have grown-up being told (in many ways – verbally and non-verbally) that you need to “go sit down and be quiet”, you may have a hard time with even knowing that you have a Voice, something unique, that you want to say, and only you can say it in your own ‘way’.
I encourage you to take some time, reflect, dig-down, see if the black sheep analogy resonates. If it does, being the betting woman I am, I bet you have something very unique to ‘say’ and share with the world, all you need is the right platform.
Will you take some time to embrace your black-sheep and discover what she has to say?
As always, it’s your choice.
Brenda Stanton is a leader in the field of female empowerment. A creative visionary, business advisor, and personal coach, Brenda supports women to Claim Your Worth in all aspects of life and business. Brenda specializes in helping women to value themselves and show them how to go from feeling like “not enough” to “more than enough” – while transforming their perceptions and beliefs so they feel capable, deserving, and worthy of the life-style and business of their dreams. To learn more about Brenda and her Transformative, Life-Style programs visit her at http://www.brendastanton.com