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Is it Healthy to be Angry With Your Cheating Wife?

You will have many questions going through your mind once you discover the truth about your cheating wife. One of the questions will be this: “is it healthy to be angry with your cheating wife?” At least, you’ll want to know if it’s healthy to be this angry with your cheating wife.

Experiencing anger at a time like this is perfectly healthy. It’s how you react to the anger that will ultimately determine how healthy your particular experience may be. In all honesty, there’s probably not a man alive who wouldn’t feel some degree of anger in this situation (at least not one that truly loves his wife in a healthy way).

What Makes Anger Healthy?

Healthy anger is anger that doesn’t want to hurt the person and isn’t looking for revenge. Anger is what it is. It’s what people do with it that takes it to unhealthy levels.

How to Deal With Anger in a Healthy Way?

There are actually quite a few things you can do that are healthy ways to address your anger. Begin by acknowledging the anger to yourself. Denying it or suppressing it can lead to bad things down the line. Address your anger, confront it, handle it, and then you will be free to move on without it dragging you down or pulling you under.

Here are a few techniques that are effective at helping you vent and manage your anger with your cheating wife so that it remains healthy and, surprisingly, productive.

Put it Down on Paper

Write a letter to your wife. Pour every ounce of venom you are feeling onto the page and get down ever single reason, even reasons that have built up over years, you are angry with her. Write until you’ve worked through all the reasons for your anger up to and including your wife’s cheating.

Once you have finished your letter, rip it up into tiny pieces and burn it. As the letter burns, release the anger you’ve been feeling and embrace a sense of calm so that you can face the aftermath of your wife’s cheating without the burden of your anger.

Work it Out of Your System

Physical exertion is another great way to work through anger. Whether you go on a massive tree trimming or construction undertaking, exercise until you can’t see straight, or simply beat the stuffing out of your wife’s pillow this is a great way to release the anger that is healthy and effective.

Once you’ve released the anger you will be able to clearly think about your future and whether you want to save your marriage and get your ex back or if leaving really is the best choice for you.

 

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Reasons Why Women Cheat on Their Boyfriends

You might wonder why women cheat on their boyfriends, especially if right now you suspect that your girlfriend might be cheating on you. It’s a tough thing to have to go through, and it can cause you to end up asking lots of questions. If you are curious as to why women cheat, then you might want to keep reading. One thing to note, though, is that you don’t want to think that all women cheat, because there are many that never will.

Here are some reasons why women cheat on their boyfriends:

1. Unable to deal with their emotions any other way.

Some women will end up having an affair because they do not know any other way to process their emotions, and if they have something traumatic happen to them, or they are going through a time when they feel insecure, then they might look to find love with someone else. Now, this kind of cheating is the kind that needs special attention, because until she realizes a better way to handle her emotions, then she might be the kind that cheats a lot. It’s hard to deal with a woman who behaves this way, and if you suspect this might be the case with your girlfriend, then you need to get some relationship counseling if you want to save the relationship.

2. As a way to get back at a boyfriend they suspect is cheating.

Some women will cheat because they assume or suspect that their boyfriend is cheating, and it is their way of getting back at them. Of course, this is not a healthy course of action, and this kind of a relationship probably will not stand the test of time. If you think that your girlfriend is stepping out because she thinks that you are… you might want to take stock of the relationship and see whether or not you want to continue with it.

3. Because they can.

Now, this kind of situation is probably pretty rare, but there are some women who will have an affair just because they can. If she knows that she can easily dupe you, then she might get tempted to have her cake and eat it too. This is when you really need to be aware of what is going on and let her know that she cannot just run around behind your back and you will not suspect a thing. This is another situation where you really want to evaluate whether or not you still want to be with her in a relationship.

 

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Gaining Perspective on Your Husband’s Cheating

Your husband’s cheating probably threw you for a loop. Most wives feel as though they were the absolute last to know even if they suspected long before the truth came out. When it happens to other people you are able to stand back and look at the big picture. When it’s your own marriage that has been touched (sucker punched in reality) by cheating, the view is different and the picture doesn’t feel quite so big.

With nearly one of every two marriages being impacted by cheating it’s a huge surprise that there aren’t more resources designed to help couples work things out after cheating has thrown their entire relationship off course. Both sides of the equation need help when it comes to cheating. Even the one who did the cheating needs a little help to sort out what he (in this particular situation) really wants the outcome of his cheating and discovery to be.

How do you gain perspective on your husband’s cheating when you are so close to the heart of the matter?

1) Walk a mile or ten in his shoes. Everyone in a marriage believes he or she is pulling a fair share of the burden of the marriage. Take a look at things from the eyes of your partner and see what kind of partnership you really have together.

2) Think of all the things you admire and respect about your husband. Remember all the reasons you fell in love with him in the first place. Remind him of all these things and make him remember why he fell in love with you too. Part of what he loves about you is the way you make him feel adored, respected, and admired.

3) Examine your actions and words through his eyes. How do the things you do and say make your husband feel? When you learn to ask yourself this daily you’ll see a huge difference in the way you and your husband relate to one another.

4) How long has it been? Yes you know what I’m talking about here. Do you remember the last time you were intimate with one another in a way that wasn’t perfunctory? When was the last time you shared a lingering kiss or tried something new and daring together? These things keep the love alive, ignite the flames of passion, and make you both feel young, attractive, and wanted.

There are no absolutes in relationships but doing these things will help you not only get your husband back but also keep him happy and make your relationship healthy.

 

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Stop Blaming Yourself For Your Husband’s Cheating!

Enough already! It’s time to stop the insanity of blaming yourself for your husband’s cheating. Hindsight is an amazing thing. Armed with the knowledge of what happened you are able to step back in time and see every single solitary thing you could have, should have, or would have done to change the ultimate outcome.

The problem remains that you’ll never know if it would have worked or not so all you have to go by are your own self doubts.

Yes. Your husband cheated. Yes. Things could have worked out differently. Here’s the thing though. You don’t know, really know, what it would have taken to make the different outcome you want to have happened, happen.

So, why are you still blaming yourself for your husband’s cheating?

Here are a few common reasons women are so quick to blame themselves for the infidelity of their husbands.

1) You believe it’s your responsibility to make him happy. While it’s great to have this ambition in your marriage, your husband is ultimately responsible for his own happiness. You can do things to please him and work hard to create a home he’s happy to come home to but he has to make his own happiness in life, just as you do. It’s too much of a burden to place upon yourself to hold yourself responsible for another person’s happiness. And, it’s unfair to both of you.

2) You believe you drove him into her arms. The thing is unless you were running behind him with a bullhorn in one hand and a cattle prod in the other, you weren’t driving him anywhere. You are not responsible for his actions. Only he is. He is the one who made the decision and he is the one who must take responsibility for making that choice.

3) You believe everyone else will blame you. This is the one that really cares a lot of weight for most women. Women are generally people pleasers. You want to make others happy and you bend over backwards to make that happen. The problem is you can’t please everyone. Stop trying to live up to the expectations of the world around you and decide your own standard to live up to. Most importantly, stop feeling guilty for not living up to the expectations of others. It’s not your job to make the world happy. No one woman or man can do that. Accept your limitations and you and those who love you will be much happier.

 

It’s true, you can’t make everyone happy but you can start today on your own campaign to get your husband back from the other woman and save your marriage.

 

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